Set Boundaries or Be Bound

Set Boundaries or Be Bound

When was the last time you realized you lacked boundaries?  Can you recall the scenario that reminded you 'this has gotten out of hand'? How did I let it get this far? 

On the other side of that coin are those of us who are barricaded within our own boundaries; over-protecting based on past or feared experiences. 

I will never forget being in corporate and over-hearing a manager yelling and being so disrespectful and condescending to one of his staff members.  While I couldn't see, I could hear the commotion flowing over my cubicle partition wall.  I could hear the young lady crying, explaining that she didn't know how to do a certain task.  Shortly after, the manager would leave for the evening as she stayed sobbing at her desk....every month. 

Lesson

While I could go further in to detail and describe all that was wrong in this situation, this is only being shared as a prime example of boundaries being a necessity. When boundaries are not set, we become bound by someone else's desires and expectations.

Reflection

Just as in our professional life, the same is true for our personal.  It is up to us to make sure boundaries are set and upheld...even when it comes to those we love.

At one point, it became apparent that my child expected me drop everything, every time, last minute, to take her somewhere, pickup supplies, drop off, etc.  I take full responsibility because I had not set those boundaries previously; I would simply accommodate.  As she got older, it became evident that my convenience was not her priority.  I became bound to her desires.

Soulution

We all have different lived and unlived experiences, so we each have different boundaries, styles, and expectations.  While we may automatically think someone should know better, they probably don't.  And, those that do, have no problem seeing how far they can go.

Set boundaries and once crossed or misunderstood, correct and redirect.

Share this message with someone you believe can tighten up their boundaries or be loosed from someone elses.

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