It Can Be Good and Still Not Be Yours

When you read this title, what comes to mind?  What is it that was good, but was not yours? Maybe it's a position, an event, opportunity, or even a relationship.

In this episode, I open up about an opportunity I was made aware of and wanted to participate in. This organization was coming in to town and it happened to be on my goals list. Well, after following up several times on the opportunity, I realized that I didn't make the list.  I was okay with that because I was the newcomer.  I had a quick conversation with myself explaining that this gave me more time to prepare and instead of participate, I could attend and take notes and learn from those that were chosen...which happened to be two people whom I knew. 

I was so excited for them.  I congratulated them, genuinely, and told them I would be in the audience cheering them on.  

Remembering this experience is what made me think about something Can Be Good and Not Yours.  Such a human experience....

That's the beauty in it.  What is so human about this moment is that both things can be true.

The reality is that just because something is good does not mean it is ours and just because it is not ours right now does not mean it will never be. Sometimes the opportunity is not rejection. Sometimes it is timing. Sometimes it is protection. Sometimes it is God repositioning us so we can enter the room another way, with more clarity, more preparation, and a better understanding of what we are truly called to carry.

How did you respond in that moment?  This is what determines our character.

While that opportunity did not happen, another door opened up. Where do you see yourself in this story?  No, you may not have gotten that 'thing', but it prepared you for something else in the meantime that had your name on it.

This is such a powerful reminder for us in life and leadership. We may not get the role, the promotion, the platform, the funding, the home, the relationship, the recognition, or the opening we thought was meant for us, but how we respond matters. Our reaction reveals what still needs healing, strengthening, or realignment inside us.

When we do not receive what we hoped for, we have a choice. We can let resentment settle in, or we can redirect that energy into preparation. We can shrink back or we can stay faithful. We can stop showing up with excellence because we feel overlooked or we can ask ourselves why we were showing up that way in the first place.

That question matters, especially in the workplace. If we only give our best when we are recognized, rewarded, or promoted, then disappointment can quietly change our character. But, when our work is rooted in purpose, integrity, and service, we can keep becoming even when the outcome does not look the way we hoped.

The “no” is not negative. Sometimes the “no” is redirection. Sometimes the “not yet” is giving us space to get in alignment. Sometimes the door that did not open would have become a burden instead of a blessing if we had walked through it too soon.

As you listen to this episode, I invite you to think about the opportunities you wanted but did not receive. Be honest about how they affected you. Let this be a reminder that what is truly for us will not miss us.

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